Is Your Kid Well-Mannered

When you think of manners, do you see people in front of you that listen carefully to what you say, do not interrupt your speech, do not violate your space and are polite? If not, where do you think that comes from? I can tell you that kids not only learn by example, they learn when taught early by their parents. So early immersion in the world we live in is the best route to go.

Our family lived in a time when children were taught to be polite with the appropriate 'please' and 'thank-you' in the right places. We were taught to respect our elders and especially the rights of others. A thank you note was always sent when gifts were given or some thoughtful gesture was given without requesting it. We gave space and consideration to anyone who was having a bad day or who was noticeably unhappy. We also knew how to show a bit of empathy to lighten the load.

All of this takes time. But it becomes second nature when delivered effortlessly in a family setting where it is expected. Also this is the place where it can be corrected so that future attempts are more successful. Also, the other siblings will help a child to learn the ropes if they feel challenged or unsure. The sooner the process starts, the sooner a child feels they are functioning correctly with other people starting with their family.

So the next time you see an individual who is exhibiting abhorrent behavior, you should realize the family has an opportunity to change that for others. It also avoids incidents where kids develop smart mouths and talk back. Trouble at school is significantly less and you took part in the development of an upstanding person in society. Very commendable. I applaud you!